You’re watching the kids on the bus, plopping their backpacks on the green vinyl bus seats high-fiving each other and laughing. Not yours. He’s staring out the window, on the verge of tears. His eyes are firmly locked onto yours. You ramp up your enthusiasm with the biggest smile and frantic wave from the end of the driveway, but underneath, your heart is breaking. “How can I force my baby into this situation! Is he really ready? Will he get picked on? Will he make friends? Who will look out for him?”
It’s so hard to relinquish control because no one will ever care about your baby the way you do. After the bus pulls away and you start tackling your to-do list, you imagine every horrible scenario he might be facing. Each mental video has him unsure, lonely and needing you. Worry is seeping into every thought in your head and it’s not a fun place to be.
Thankfully 1 Corinthians 10:5 has the answer. “…take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ.” I recently heard someone say that you live most of your life inside your head, so make sure it’s a nice place to be. That’s true. What we think, directs our steps. So here’s what the verse is getting at. Whenever you have a thought or feeling of fear or worry, stop. Identify what that thought is telling you (he won’t make friends, kids will tease him, he’ll be sad all day) and take that thought captive. Say it, and then speak truth back to it. Like this:
Thought: He won’t make friends.
Truth: There are other kids just like him and they will find each other. His teacher will help the kids make friends. God is watching over my baby and will help him make new friends.
Thought: He’ll be sad all day.
Truth: He will be sad to begin with, but soon, he’ll be distracted by fun things going on in the classroom and discovering new games and stories. God will calm his heart because He loves my baby even more than I do.
After capturing each thought and speaking truth to it, do something pro-active and positive with your thoughts like pray, send a nice note to his teacher, or plan an after-school activity for your child that they’ll love.
Speaking of prayer, will you pray with me?
Dear Heavenly Father…oh that’s right, you are a father! A parent. You’ve been through all of this before. You have parented me, and billions of other people for thousands of generations, and Your wisdom runs deep. Thank You for loving my baby more than me. Thanks for Your compassion when I come to You in worry and tears. Please help me to take every thought captive and make it obedient to you. Show me when worry is in the driver’s seat and remind me to be proactive in relegating my emotions to the back seat because fear and worry will never make me a better mom. With Your help, being a godly, truth-speaking, positive and proactive mom will. In Jesus’ name. Amen.