Maybe you had a friend or family member hurt you, and you are having a hard time forgiving them. You know what you are supposed to do, but knowing and doing are two very different things.
It’s not just something the Bible says is important, science has also confirmed how unhealthy it is to hold back forgiveness. When someone hurts you and you don’t let it go, it activates the fight-or-flight response in your brain. This leads to unhealthy side effects such as:
- High blood pressure
- Being more forgetful
- Relive the pain over and over
You can find plenty of other side effects on the Mayo Clinic Website.
So, how do you move forward? Try these steps:
- Admit the pain (don’t stuff it down inside).
- Journal and process your pain.
- Draw deeply from God’s grace.
- Begin to forgive.
Notice that the last step is to begin. It’s not forgive and forget in an instant. It’s a process. True forgiveness is more like remembering it less and less.